Love Your Tom Boy
>> Tom Boy identifies as a wastecase pop band. This Toronto based band is made up of four musicians, Nate Daniels (vocals/guitar), Dante Berardi Jr (guitar/vocals/synth), Rashad Mohammed (bass/synth), and Andrew Wiseman (drums, SPD-SX, synth). They recently released an incredibly catchy single, "How to Become a Drug Dealer", check out their guest blog feature below!
It was all getting to be a bit much.
Constant touring and tight quarters took their toll on CAIRO, our last project. While overseas in England, an affair developed in the band. We all knew that we’d have to face the consequences of keeping the affair secret from all ignorant parties upon returning home – it was a literal nightmare.
While we tried to make amends and continue riding the wave that we had built, it was clear that the damage was done. At one point, I think the words dead weight were used and that was the beginning of the end.
Except we weren’t ready to quit. Joining forces with producer Crispin Day (July Talk, Shad), we wrote songs that mirrored our trainwreck past – drugs, mental illness, booze, affairs, and all.
The connection between our reckless dependency on relationships gone bad and the damaging withdrawal symptoms that they evoked became too clear to ignore. “How To Become a Drug Dealer” paints a picture of addiction, drawing parallels between the relationships of drug-abuser/dealer and people in deteriorating relationships.
We can’t continue to live the lie that our lives are perfect and shiny – fit for role model status. Our careers reflect the choices we have made and it’s about time that our songs reflected that, as well.
(Nate) - I was a fairly athletic kid growing up. I played baseball, volleyball, basketball, and soccer and one day I was playing center field when one parent asked another,
"Is that your kid? She's a real tomboy!"
I only heard this later when one of my teammates casually brought it up during recess. I was a skinny, effeminate kid. I had long hair. I could have been a girl for all you'd know. But it still stuck with me. I carried this negative thing around with me for years – someone thought I was a girl – would they find out I'm a fag? When I got older I came to terms with a lot of the negative bullshit I dealt with when I was younger. I also found pride in my feminine side. That part of me is strong, cunning, empathetic, and visionary just like the females I surrounded myself with growing up and the females I surround myself with today. Tom Boy has a space in it because it is the separation of what others think me to be, and what I actually am. Plus, it just fucking sounds cool.
(Nate) The song was written after one of the most amazing and emotionally draining tours Dante and I had with our previous project CAIRO. We left Toronto knowing there was an affair taking place within the band, and we played every single night knowing it would explode when we made it to the West Coast. Though it may have been a self-fulfilling prophecy, the internal pressure to keep the secret was too much; the band collapsed in Vancouver. We came home and tried to make it work. But the songs were biting, filled with resentment. How to Become a Drug Dealer paints the metaphorical (and sometimes very real) picture of what happened to us on tour. It was important that we told that story, so Dante and I left the band to do just that.
(Nate) The music video itself was directed by our friend Ben Lewis (Arrow, Handmaids Tale) who had recently used some of CAIRO's music for his short Apart From Everything starring Tatiana Maslany (Destroyer, Orphan Black). The video mocks the idea of celebrity and all of its trappings but also confronts the challenges of it. It parallels the relationship between drug dealer and drug abuser with deteriorating romantic relationships. Plus, it just fucking looks cool. <<
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